The "Fatherbook"

Hi, I am Mr. 6. Since 2017, I've been putting my time and energy into helping divorcing or divorced fathers through family transitions—especially those facing parental alienation, false accusations, and post-divorce trauma. I founded Help Fathers Foundation (HFF), now a registered charity in Canada, to bring together more volunteers with different skills and life experiences to support fathers. Most of our volunteers are neither fathers nor male.

Our only way of raising funds is by selling “The Fatherbook”—a 330-page textbook written to explain how fathers think, why they face certain challenges, and how they view the world. The book is mainly written for divorce-related professionals, who often play a key role in deciding whether a father gets fair parenting time after a divorce. We are asking for the public’s support to help this book reach more professionals across the country and around the world. We are also inviting more fathers to contribute their own chapters to make the book more complete and more up-to-date.

This is only our first year. We have many more to come—years that we hope will bring more happiness to fathers, their children, their extended families, and even their ex-spouses.

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Chapters Overview

01

Understanding Fathers by Living It

02

When Questions Are Not Questions

03

Should We Only Help the “Right” Fathers?

04

Why Total Reconciliation Is Nearly Impossible

05

“I Cannot See My Kids!”

06

“It’s Not Fair!”

07

“She Wronged First!”

08

“She Framed Me”

09

“She Is the Worse Caregiver”

10

“See? I’ve Got Proof!”

11

“Her New Relationships Put the Kids in Danger”

12

“She Brainwashed Everyone”

13

“She Made Our Kids Hate Me!”

14

“She Has Narcissistic Personal Disorder”

15

“What She Is Doing Is Child Abuse!”

16

“She Belittled Me!”

17

“She Is Financially Abusing Me”

18

“I Lost My Temper Because She Pushed Me Too Far”

19

“She Should Be Put in Jail for Lying!”

20

Fathers Are Emotional Illiterate

21

Fathers Are Over-Rational

22

Fathers Can Be So Judgmental

23

Fathers Are More Than Their Sexual Mistakes

24

Fathers Who Betray, But Still Love

25

The Immoveable Father

26

The Father’s Romantic Mind — Why He Seems to Lose It

27

“The Control Freak” inside the Father

28

The Uncomfortable Father

29

Father’s Family of Origin

30

Why Are Fathers Friendless?

31

How High a Father’s Hatred Can Rise When He Cannot See His Kids

32

How Fathers See Men’s Online Forums

33

How Fathers See Father’s Rights Advocacy

34

Inner Conflict in Fathers’ Advocacy Groups

35

How Fathers See the Old-Time Patriarchy and the New Gender Balance

36

How Fathers See Professionals’ Intervention

37

How Fathers Come to See Feminists as the Enemy

38

How Fathers See #MeToo

39

When Happily-Wed Male Friends Turn Against The Father

40

How Fathers See the Total Family Collapse

41

Provoking the Father

42

Preemptive Preparations Before Divorce

43

Court’s Undecisiveness

44

The TRO

45

Using His New Relationship Against Him

46

The Windmill Attack

47

Childless Night

48

Childless Holidays

49

Labeling Fathers with 'Toxic Masculinity'

50

Framing the Father as Too Strict

51

The Mother Halo

52

Making Fake Bruise

53

Alleging Sexual Misconduct to Children

54

Why Fathers Distanced from Professionals

55

How to Attract a Large Quantity of Fathers into Professional Help

56

How to Talk to Fathers — If You’re a Male Helper

57

How to Talk to Fathers — If You’re a Female Helper